Advices of a Waliy Pious Muslim to his Students

[Sayfullah]

Words of Wisdom

He said: I advise them in avoiding laziness and anger, and exercising steady patience for enduring the hardship of ad-da^wah. Lessen enjoying the mubah or quit it completely. Avoid rushing into judging a Muslim with kufr or accusing him with committing a major sin just because

you relied on the news delivered by only one trustworthy person. One may become skeptical when just one trustworthy individual tells him that another person has done so and so. That doing of the latter can be kufr or haram (like a major sin). It is possible that he has done one of these two possible doings. In this case, one does not belie the informer nor does he believe him to become certain about what the former person has said. Let them have good thoughts about the person who is apparently a Muslim until what either strengthens that, or strengthens its opposite becomes clearer to them. Let them not humiliate others because they are not of our jama^ah. Allah made the awliya' of Allah unknown to his slaves. There may be awliya' in a bad village and those awliya' are not known to the people. I advise them to love each other, stretch ties to each other, and visit one another.

I advise them to be gratified with little sustenance, because being gratified with little sustenance provides safety for the Religion and life. There are many people who were imprisoned and killed because of greed and the intense engagement in acquiring more sustenance and money. Even in Arab countries, they deal with haram dealings and some of them cheat to increase their money. He cheats his brothers. The one who is gratified with little halal is secure from that and is secure in the Hereafter. Talk a little, remember death and pray lot in night while the people are asleep.

His Excellency, Sheikh ^Abdullah, said that the hadith of the prophet, sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallam, to one of the companions was: Feed the food, visit the relatives, spread as-salam and pray in night while the people are asleep, you will enter Paradise with peace (Ibn Hibban).

His Excellency said: Be aware all of you from laziness (al-kasal). The prophet, ^alayhi-s-salatu was-salam, said as part of his du^a': Wa^udhu bika minal^ajzi w-al-kasal. Al-^ajz means the weak endeavor in working for the Religion. It is not the weakness of the body. Many people have weak bodies, but when it comes to endeavor they are stronger than men with strong bodies. Both, weakness and laziness delay the person from reaching higher ranks.

His Excellency said: Don't anyone of you let his heart rest on disdaining the opinion of someone else. Someone may do that because he may be older in age or has more knowledge than the other. Take the companions of the prophet, sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallam, as an example. They cleared their intentions of that.

His Excellency said: Make yourself used to being patient on the harm with which people inflict you. Don't inflict your harm on them. Treat people with good manners- those who treat you with good manners and those who treat you with its opposite.

His Excellency said: Do abide by the Knowledge of the Religion. Knowledge is the life of Islam. The one who ignores it is lost and misled. He swings with any wind and follows any caller. Verily, Knowledge protects you, while you protect the money.

His Excellency said: I advise you to treat people with gentleness (ar-rifq). Ar-rifq means to extend goodness to others in a way that one benefit from it.

His Excellency said: Do abide by following one another. Leave away haughtiness over your brothers. Do tie yourselves with each other, love one another, visit and sacrifice for each other.

His Excellency said: Become used to practicing forgiveness among yourselves and not hurting one another. It's of no goodness to have enmity in the heart and to act in accordance to that. Don't practice that against one another even when you are mistreated.

His Excellency said: The teacher should be humble to the one whom he teaches and should refrain from showing haughtiness. Similarly, the one being taught should be humble to the one from whom he learns and should exercise good ethics.

His Excellency said: Working with the obligation makes one blessed by Allah more than working with the optional deeds. Do abide by giving precedence to the obligation over the optional deed thus following the rule: The one who is preoccupied with fulfilling the obligation instead of the optional deed is excused, but the one who is preoccupied with performing the optional deed instead of the obligation has false security.

His Excellency said: Do abide by talking a little, because a great deal of talking leads to ruin. It leads to kufr and to what cause breaking the bonds- breaking the bonds between the relatives and the beloved ones.

His Excellency said: Be careful when talking to people. You may think that some of the speech does not irritate the soul, but in reality it does. Do seek kindness in your dealings, conversations and movements. His Excellency said: Be aware of enjoying a great deal of what is mubah (at-tana^um). At-tana^um jeopardizes social support and may push one to stretch ones hand to haram money. Many people may possess what is sufficient for satisfying their basic needs but they got used to at-tana^um. They then stretch their hands to acquiring haram money so that the tana^um to which they have been used is not wasted. At-tana^um also results in neglecting the necessities which include uprooting mis-guidance, kufr and what is an inferior munkar.

His Excellency said: A trait of good manners is to pardon the one who wrongs you and to treat him with goodness beyond equity instead of mistreating him.

His Excellency said: Do strive hard for accumulating the supply for the Hereafter. This life is to an end, while the Hereafter is the abode of everlastingness. You have to desert anger, talk less, and keep learning the Religion. Be satisfied with little sustenance.

His Excellency said: Do abide by working with as-sunnah, taking the example of al-'a'immah (pl. of imam), agreeing with the worshipper and obedient, sitting with the one who repents and has fear, socializing with the loyal and submissive, and visiting the one who makes sujud and ruku^.

His Excellency said to one of his students: Seek to become greatly knowledgeable, possess great patience that prevents anger and have a great tolerance to others.

His Excellency said: By not submersing oneself in enjoying the mubah (at-tana^um) the heart will be straightened, because it helps for preparing for the Hereafter. The one who is used to at-tana^um will miss a great deal of goodness. This may also lead him to seek money in a haram way. The prophets and al-'awliya' do not exercise at-tana^um. This is not because at-tana^um is haram, because it is not haram if it was from what Allah made lawful, but deserting it helps for preparing for the Hereafter. The one who is satisfied with the little of sustenance and did not seek at-tana^um, will have his life and religion saved.

His Excellency said to one of his students: I advise you to fear Allah, choose the Hereafter instead of this life and accept the little of sustenance. Desert anger and have good thought about the brothers. Have ties with them, love them and be humble. None of you may have highness over his brother even if he was of lesser knowledge. None of you may despise following the opinion of his brother who has lesser knowledge and good deeds as long as his brother is calling him to goodness.

His Excellency, may Allah protect him, said: I advise you to have mercy among yourselves and defeat yourselves. Enjoy humbleness and good manners. Listen to the advice of those who are younger or older. Talk less except for what is good. I advise you to seek the praised traits and submit to one another. Have sincere intention in your deeds. I remind you with the hadith of the prophet, sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallam: Allah grants for practicing mildness what He does not grant for roughness.

His Excellency said: Do abide by working hard and fulfilling the necessities and teaching it. Avoid laziness and desert at-tana^um. Have patience on the hardships of obedience and the hardships of different types of worships. Bear it and conquer the self for fulfilling it. Be humble with the slaves of Allah the little and the big. Allah said to his prophet: Waqul rabbi zidni ^ilma. The prophet, sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallam, was told to ask Allah for the increase in knowledge. No order was mentioned in al-Qur'an for the prophet to ask the increase of anything other than asking the increase of knowledge. I advise you to be steadfast on striving acquiring the knowledge of Ahl as-Sunnah in ^Aqidah and Rules. Do not become bored.

His Excellency, may Allah protect him, said: One of the bad traits is for the Muslim to think badly of others because of a word that his brother uttered, while he may interpret it in a good way. Nevertheless, the individual likes people to think well of him. Let him then do in return the same thing for other Muslims.

His Excellency said: One should not rush in praising a person or another. One may not also rush in dispraising a person or another. Be aware from labeling a person with righteousness (al-wilayah) because his talk is a little and his food is a little. Al-wilayah has a prerequisite which is straightforwardness.

His Excellency said: A great number of people experienced catastrophes because of much talking. His Excellency said: Impose on yourselves to abide by humbleness, because humbleness is the leader to perfection. His Excellency said: The prophet, sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallam, said: You neglect the best of worship, humbleness.

His Excellency said: Ignorance devastates its possessor as poison devastates the one who takes it. His Excellency said: The meaning of Allah's saying: Wat-taqullah is to perform all the obligations including learning the knowledge which is an obligation on every accountable person. It also includes avoiding all the sins. However, to practice plenty of optional deeds is taken from the hadith al-qudsiyy narrated by al-Bukhariyy: ... The slave of Allah will continue performing the optional deeds until he reaches the rank of the one loved by Allah. He then becomes one of those loved by Allah. At-taqwa does not happen without learning the Obligatory Knowledge. It's from at-taqwa to learn the obligations. The saying of Allah: Wat-taqullah means perform the obligations which include learning the knowledge and avoiding the prohibitions.


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A Du^a'

Alhamdulillahi rabbil ^alamin. Wa sallallahu ^ala sayyidina Muhammad wa ^ala alihi wa sahbihit-tayyibinat-tahirin. As'alullah an yaj^ala niyyatina khalisatan liwajhihi.

We ask Allah to make us safe and to protect us and guide us and to make us die on the creed of the Prophet, sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallam, and to make us live as Muslims and die as Muslims. And We ask Allah to make us steadfast on the straight path. and to make us die on the belief of Ahlus-Sunnah wal-Jama^ah. We ask Allah ta^ala to make us adhere to the belief of Ahlus-Sunnah throughout our lives, and to keep us distant from the people of bida^. We ask Allah to make us die on the creed of the Prophet, sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallam.

We ask Allah to make us among the humble. We ask Allah to guide us to stay Muslim all our lives and to die as Muslims. We ask Allah tabaraka wa ta^ala to protect us from being misguided and to make us steadfast in following the Sunnah of the Prophet, and to end our lives as Muslims. Wa subhanallahi wa bihamdihi wallahu ta^ala a^lam.

We ask Allah to make us among those who adhere to the rules and methodology of the Prophet, sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallam, and I ask Allah to give us a good ending.

We ask Allah to make us steadfast in the religion that Nabiyy Muhammad, sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallm, brought until we die. And we ask Allah to guide us to follow the Prophet and to be guided by his teachings.

We ask Allah to protect us from blasphemy. We ask Allah to end our lives in complete belief and to admit us to Paradise out of His Mercy and to protect us from the torture of hellfire. Subhanallahi wa bihamdihi wallahu ta^ala a^lam

O Allah, You are the Alive, the Qayyum, the Forgiver of sins, the One Who accepts the repentance, the One Who creates the guidance, the One Who endows the endowments on the people and sustains them, the Generous and Most Merciful. O Allah, We ask You by the virtue of Your Good Names to raise the rank of our Prophet Muhammad, to guide us to mention You a lot, to make us rely deeply on You, and to make us satisfied with what You give us without leaning towards acquiring worldly matters from other than You, and to do the good deeds. We ask You to give us a perfect belief and a strong certitude, and to gather us on the Day of Judgment with the prophets, the martyrs, and the righteous Muslims. We ask You for all of that by the virtue of our Master, Muhammad, the Master of the Messengers and the Special beloved person to His Lord. Praise be to Allah, the Owner of the humans and the jinns. May Allah raise the rank of our Prophet, Muhammad, and protect his nation from that which he fears for them. Amin.

[Sayfullah]

He also said:

"أَمَّا بَعْدُ فَإِنّيْ أُوْصِيْكُمْ بالتَّطَاوُعِ فَإِنَّ القليلَ مَعَ التَّطَاوُعِ كَثِيْرٌ وَالكثيْرَ مَعَ عَدَمِ التَّطَاوُعِ قَلِيْلٌ. وَأُوْصِيْكُمْ بِالتَّحَآبّ فِي اللهِ وَالتَّـزَاوُرِ فِيْهِ فَإِنَّ لِلْمُتَحَآبِّيْنَ فِي اللهِ درجةً عظيمةً ثَبَتَ في الحديث القُدْسِيّ "وَجَبَتْ مَحَبَّتِيْ لِلْمُتَحَآبّيْنَ فِيَّ والْمُتَزَاورِينَ فِيَّ والْمُتَجَالسِينَ فِيَّ". وَلْيَـنْصَحْ بعضُكم بعضًا بالرِّفقِ والْحِكمةِ وليَـتَفَقَّدْ بعضُكم بعضًا وَلاَ سِـيَّمَا إذَا طَالَتْ غَيْـبَةُ أَخِيْكَ أَوْ نَزَلَتْ بِـهِ مُصِيْـبَةٌ أو اشتَدَّ به مرَضٌ وأُوصِيكُم بالْحِلْمِ والعَفْوِ وأن يُعامِل أحدُكم أخَاه بِمَا يُحبُّ أن يعامِلَـه به أخُوهُ من الصَّفْحِ والعَفْوِ ومقابَـلَةِ الإسَاءَةِ بالإِحْسَانِ وهذَا شرطُ الإيْمَانِ الكَامِلِ الَّذِي يكونُ بِـهِ الإِنسانُ مِنَ الَّذِيْنَ لا خوفٌ عليهم وَلاَ هُمْ يَحزَنُوْنَ.

Thereafter, I urge with tatawu^ (being cooperative) because little with tatawu^ is plenty, but plenty without tatawu^ is little. I urge you to love each other for Allah's sake, love one another because those who love each other for Allah's sake have a great reward. It's confirmed in the Qudsi hadith: "My MaHabbah (acceptance) is assured for those who love each other for my sake, who sit together for my sake, who visit each other for my sake".
Do advise one another with gentleness and wisdom, check one one another, especially if your fellow brother has been away for a while or was inflicted with a .calamaty or sickness
I urge to be patient, wise, pardoning and for one to treat his brother the way he likes to be treated by pardoning, and exchanging mistreatment with kindness. This is a condition for perfect Eman which makes a person among those who no fear on them nor will they be saddened.

[Sayfullah]

He also said:
وَصَحَّ أنَّ رسولَ الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ "إِيَّاكُمْ وَالظَّنَّ فَإِنَّ الظَّنَّ أَكْذَبُ الْحَديثِ وَلاَ تَحَسَّسُوْا ولا تَجَسّسوا ولا تَنَافَسُوْا ولا تَحَاسَدُوْا وَلاَ تَبَاغَضُوْا وَلا تَدَابَرُوْا وَكُوْنُوْا عِبَادَ اللهِ إِخْوَانًا". [وَلاَ تَحَسَّسُوْا اَلتَّحَسُّسُ التَّفْتِيْشُ عَنْ عيوبِ النَّاسِ بِالعَينِ] وَفَّقَكُمُ اللهُ وَحَفِظَكُمْ".  وقال رضي الله عنه "أُوْصِيْكُمْ بِالتَّحَآبّ وَالتَّوَآدّ وَالتَّـنَاصُحِ وَالتَّـوَاصُلِ وَالتَّـزَاوُرِ وَالتَّبَاذُلِ وَلَوْ بِشَىْءٍ قَلِيْلٍ. يَبذُل هذا لأَخِيْه سِوَاكًا أو شَـيْئًا سَهْلا ثُمَّ الآخَرُ يبذُل مَا تَيَسَّرَ لَهُ. إِنَّ التَّـبَاذُلَ يُقَوّي الْمَحَبَّةَ. وَالتَّـزَاوُرُ مُهِمٌّ جِدًّا لاَ يَمْضِ عَلَى أحدِكم مدَّةٌ واسِعَةٌ لَمْ يَرَ فيها أخَاه ولا سَـأَلَ عَنْهُ. وَإِنْ استَطَاعَ أن يزُورَه زَارَهُ وَإِنْ لَمْ يَستَطِعْ يُرْسِلْ سلاَمًا له أو يُكَالِمه بوَاسِـطَةِ التّليفون. إن عَمِلتُم بِهذا فَأَنْتُمْ كثيْرٌ وَإِنْ لَمْ تفْعَلُوْا فأنتم قَلِيْلٌ. إِنْ فعَلْتُمْ فَأَنْتُم أَقْوِيَاءُ وَإِلاَّ فَأَنْتُمْ ضُعَفَاءُ.
وَالَّذِيْ يُسَـهّلُ هَذَا التَّـوَاضُعُ وَالتَّوَاضُعُ يَدْعُو إِلَى التَّـطَاوُعِ".
وقال "أَكّدُوْا عَلَى كُلّ إِخْوَانِنَا لِيَتَزَاوَرُوْا ، بِسَبَبِ الإِهْمَالِ الَّذِيْ حَصَلَ فِي تَرْكِ التَّـزَاوُرِ ضَعُفَتْ هِمَمُ بَعْضِ النَّاسِ".

It's confirmed that Rasulullah peace be upon him said:
Beware of suspicion. Suspicion is the most untrue speech. Do not spy (detect people's defects)  and do not eavesdrop. Do not compete with each other and do not envy each other and do not hate each other and do not shun each other. Be slaves of Allah, brothers." Do no spy means detecting for people's defects. May Allah facilitate for you the goodness, and protect you.

He also said: "I urge you to love each other , have affection, do advise, connect, visit each other, exchange gifts even if little. One would give his brother a siwak or something simple, and the other would give what he can. This strengthens the love. Visits are very important. One shouldn't let a long time pass without seeing his brother or asking about him. If he could visit him let him do so, if he cannot let then let him send him a greeting or call him by phone. If you do this then you will be plenty, and if you don't do this then you are few. If you do this you will be strong, otherwise you will be weak.
What makes this easy, is to have tawadu^, humbleness, and humbleness calls for tatawu^ cooperation.
He also said: "Emphasis on all our brothers to visit  each other". Because of negligence in visiting some people's efforts got weakened.

[Sayfullah]

قال الشيخ عبد الله رضي الله عنه وأرضاه
"قَالَ الفَارُوْقُ عُمَرُ رضي الله عنه "مِنَ الْخِصَالِ القَبِـيْحَةِ أَنْ يظنَّ المسلمُ بكلمةٍ خرجَتْ مِنْ فَمِ أَخِيه المسلمِ سُوْءًا وهو يَجِدُ لَها فِي الْخَيْرِ مَحْمَلا". وقَدْ صَحَّ فِي الْحَديثِ الْمَرْفُوْعِ "وَلْتَأْتِ إِلَى النَّاسِ بِمَا تُحِبُّ أَنْ يَأْتُـوْكَ" لأَنَّ هذَا الإنسانَ يُحِبُّ أَنْ يُحَسِّنَ الناسُ الظنَّ بِهِ فليَفْعَلْ مثلَ ذلكَ بِغَيْرِهِ مِن المسلمِيْنَ فيكونُ عَمِلَ بِهذَا الحديثِ وبِالْحَديثِ الآخَرِ الَّذِي هو صحيحٌ أيضًا "لاَ يُؤْمِنُ أحدُكُمْ حَتَّى يُحِبَّ لأَخِيْهِ مَا يُحِبُّ لِنَفْسِهِ" وَبِالْحَديثِ الآخَرِ "وَخَالِقِ النَّاسَ بِخُلُقٍ حَسَنٍ" وهو أيضًا صحيحٌ. وَأَمَّا مَا رواهُ البخاريُّ أنَّ عُمَرَ رضي الله عنه قَالَ "إِنَّ أُنَاسًا كَانُوْا يُؤْخَذُوْنَ بِالوَحْيِ عَلَى عَهْدِ رسولِ اللهِ وَإِنَّ الوَحْيَ قَد انْقَطَعَ فَمَنْ أَظْهَرَ لَنَا خَيْرًا أَمِـنَّاهُ وقَرَّبْـنَاهُ وَصَدَّقْنَاهُ وَمَنْ أَظْهَرَ لَنَا غَيْرَ ذلِكَ لَمْ نَأْمَـنْهُ وَلَمْ نُصَدِّقْهُ وَإِنْ قَالَ إِنَّ سَرِيْرَتَهُ حَسَنَةٌ". فهذَا الْمُرَادُ بِـهِ أَنْ لاَ يَكُوْنَ لَـهُ فِي الْخَيْرِ مَحْمل".

Our sheikh may Allah reward him said: "Imam Omar al-Farooq may Allah reward him said: "Among the bad traits is for one to think ill about a word that your fellow brother said, while you can find for it a good meaning".
Also the hadith is confirmed to "Treat people as you like to be treated" because one likes people to think well of him so let him think well of other Muslims, by doing so he would be applying this hadith and the other sahih Hadith which means: "One will not be a perfect believer, until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself" and the other hadith: "Treat people with the good manners" which is also Sahih.
As for what al-Bukhariy narrated that Omar may Allah reward him said: "إِنَّ أُنَاسًا كَانُوْا يُؤْخَذُوْنَ بِالوَحْيِ.." it's talking about people who don't intend the good.

وقال رضي الله عنه وأرضاه
"وَعَلَيْكُم بِحُسْنِ الظَّنّ إِلا أن ظَهَرَ لَكُمْ مِنْ شَخْصٍ مَا يَقْتَضِيْ شَرْعًا التَّحْذِيْرَ مِنْهُ ثُمَّ التَّحْذِيْرُ لِيَكُنْ بِحِكْمَةٍ".
Sheikh also said: "Think well of others, and if you see from someone what calls for warning from them religiously, then warn wisely".
وقال رضي الله عنه وأرضاه
"مَنْ حَسُنَ ظَنُّهُ طَابَ عَيْشُهُ".
He also said: "Whoever think well of others, lives well".

[Sayfullah]

قال الشيخ عبد الله رضي الله عنه وأرضاه
"قَالَ رَسُوْلُ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم  "خَصْلَتَانِ مَا إِنْ تَجَمَّلَ الْخَلاَئِقُ بِمِثْلِهِمَا حُسْنُ الْخُلُقِ وَطُوْلُ الصَّمْتِ" روَاهُ عبدُ اللهِ بن محمد أبو بكر بن أبِي الدنيا القرشيّ فِي كِتَابِ الصَّمْتِ.  حُسْنُ الْخُلُقِ المذكورُ فِي هذا الْحَديثِ عِبَارَةٌ عَنْ ثلاثَـةِ أُمُوْرٍ كَفُّ الأَذَى عَنِ النَّاسِ وتَحَمُّلُ أذَى النَّاسِ وأَنْ يَعْمَلَ الْمَعْرُوْفَ معَ الَّذِيْ يَعرِفُ لَـهُ إحسانَـه ومَعَ الَّذِيْ لاَ يعرِفُ لَـهُ. وَمَنْ نَالَ حُسْنَ الْخُلُقِ فقَدْ نَالَ مَقَامًا عَالِيًا فقَدْ يَبْلُغُ الرَّجُلُ بِحُسْنِ خُلُقِهِ دَرَجَةَ القَائِمِ الصَّائِمِ أَي الَّذِيْ لاَ يَـتْرُكُ القيامَ فِي جوفِ اللَّيلِ ولاَ يَـتْرُكُ صيامَ النَّفْلِ. وَرَوَى البيهقيُّ فِي كتابِ الآدَابِ أَنَّ رَسولَ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ "أَنَا زَعِيْمٌ بِبَـيْتٍ فِي رَبَضِ الْجَنَّةِ لِمَنْ تَرَكَ الْمِرَاءَ وَإِنْ كَانَ مُحِقًّا وَبِبَـيْتٍ فِي وَسَطِ الْجَنَّةِ لِمَنْ تَرَكَ الكَذِبَ وَإِنْ كَانَ مَازِحًا وَبِبَيْتٍ فِي أَعْلَى الْجَنَّةِ لِمَنْ حَسَّنَ خُلُقَهُ"
قَوْلُـهُ "وَبِبَيْتٍ فِي أَعْلَى الْجَنَّةِ لِمَنْ حَسَّنَ خُلُقَهُ" مَعْنَاهُ أَنَّ الرَّسُوْلَ كَافِلٌ وَضَامِنٌ بِبَيْتٍ فِي أَعْلَى الْجَنَّةِ لِمَنْ حَسَّنَ خُلقَهُ. وحُسنُ الْخُلُقِ هو أن يُحسِنَ إِلَى النَّاسِ فَيَـبْذُلُ معروفَـهُ مَعَ النَّاسِ الَّذِيْنَ يعرِفُوْنَ له مَعْرُوْفَـهُ وَالَّذِيْنَ لاَ يعرفُوْنَ لَـهُ لاَ يَجعَلُ معروفَهُ خاصًّا بِالَّذِيْنَ يُعَامِلُوْنَـهُ بِالْمِثْلِ فَيَـعُمُّ بِخَيْرِهِ مَنْ يعرِفُ لَـهُ وَمَنْ لاَ يعرِفُ. لأنَّ حُسْنَ الْخُلُقِ يشتمِلُ عَلَى ثلاثةِ أُمُوْرٍ أَنْ يَبْـذُلَ معروفَهُ أي إحسَانَـهُ لِمَنْ يَعمَلُ معه بِالْمِثلِ ومَنْ لاَ يعمَلُ معَه بِالْمِثْلِ هذَا الَّذِيْ لَهُ هذا الفضلُ عندَ اللهِ أن يُعطِيَهُ الله بَـيْتًا فِي أَعْلَى الْجَنَّةِ. وَالأَمْرُ الثَّانِي أن يتحَمَّلَ أَذَى النَّاسِ أَيْ يصبِرَ عَلَى أذَاهُمْ. والأَمْرُ الثَّالِثُ هُوَ أن يَكُف أَذَاهُ عَن النَّاسِ ولاَ يُؤْذِيهمْ. وهذهِ الْخِصَالُ كلُّها كانت موجُودَةً فِي أَنْبِـيَاءِ اللهِ تبَارَك وتعالَى الَّذِيْنَ كَانُوْا قُدْوَةً لِلنَّاسِ فَنَسْأَلُ اللهَ تَعَالَى حُسْنَ الاقتِدَاءِ بِهِمْ.

[Sayfullah]

Sheikh Abdullah may Allah have mercy upon him said:
"The messenger of Allah peace be upon him said: "One can greatly beautify himself with two habits--good manners and lengthy silence. In

Good manners mentioned in this hadith means to have three matters: avoid harming others, bear their harm, and to do good to those who acknowledge it and  those who don't acknowledge it. Whoever practices the good manners, attains high status. A man could attain with his good manners, the status of the person who stays up the night in prayers and days in fasting. This means he doesn't stop night prayers, nor optional fasting.

Also alBukhary narrated that Rasulullah said: "I guarantee a house in Jannah for one who gives up arguing, even if he is in the right; and I guarantee a home in the middle of Jannah for one who abandons lying even for the sake of joking; and I guarantee a house in the highest part of Jannah for one who has good manners."

To have good manners is to be good to people, to put effort in being good with other people, those who appreciate and those who don't appreciate that kindness. Not being kind only to those who acknowledge his kindness, rather to all. Because good manners includes three matters: to put effort in being kind to those who treat him well and those who mistreat him. That person is the one that has that reward from Allah, that Allah would grant him a house in the highest part of Jannah. The second matter is to be patient on the harm of others. The third matter is to behold his harm from others. These traits were all the traits of the Prophet's of Allah, they were role models to people so we ask Allah to enable us to take them as an example.

[Sayfullah]

اَلتَّوَاضُعُ وَالتَّحَآبُّ وَالْحِلْمُ وَالتَّطَاوُعُ

قال الشيخ  رضي الله عنه وأرضاه
"اَلدَّعْوَةُ إِلَى اللهِ تَحْتَاجُ إِلَى أُمُوْرٍ مِنْـهَا التَّوَاضُعُ وَالتَّحَآبُّ وَالْحِلْمُ وَالتَّطَاوُعُ. أَمَّا التَّوَاضُعُ فَإِنَّـهُ يَدْعُوْ إِلَى التَّآلُفِ. الرَّسولُ سَمَّاهُ أفضلَ العبَادَةِ "إِنَّكُمْ لَتَغْفُلُوْنَ عَنْ أَفْضَلِ العِبَادَةِ التَّوَاضُع" وَقَالَ عليه الصلاة والسلام  "مَنْ تَوَاضَعَ للهِ درَجَةً رَفَعَهُ اللهُ درجةً حَتَّى يَبْلُغَ إِلَى عِلّيّـيْنَ" وَقَالَ "مَنْ تَكَبَّرَ دَرَجَةً خَفَضَهُ اللهُ درجةً حَتَّى يَبْلُغَ أَسْفَلَ سَافِلِيْنَ". مَن استمَرَّ عَلَى التكبُّرِ يصِلُ إِلَى أسفلِ السَّافلينَ فِي الانْحطاطِ الْمَعنويِّ وهو الْخُسرانُ معناه هو أَخْسَرُ الْخَاسِرِيْنَ. وَأَهْلُ العلمِ يَكْثُرُ الاستِفَادَةُ مِنْهُمْ عَلَى حَسَبِ تَوَاضُعِهم وبِفَقْدِ التواضُعِ أهلُ العلمِ يَقِلُّ الانتفاعُ بِهم.
Sheikh Abdullah said: Da^wah requires things among them is humbleness, loving each other, patience, wisdom, and tatawu^ cooperation. As for Humbleness, it results in passionate reconciliation. Rasulullah named it "the best act of worship" he said; "You are inattentive of the best ^ibadah, act of worship, it is tawadu^ humbleness". He also said: "Whoever humbles himself for Allah's sake one degree, Allah will raise him one degree until he reaches ^Illieen".

He also said: "and whoever behaves arrogantly one degree, Allah will lower him in status one degree, until He makes him among the lowest of the low".
Whoever keeps behaving arrogantly, he will reach the lowest of the low. And the benefit from people of knowledge  increases more depending on their humbleness. With lack of humbleness of the people of knowledge the benefit from them decreases.
وَأَمَّا التَّحَآبُّ وَالتَّـوَادُّ فَهُوَ أَسَاسُ النَّفْعِ وَالانتفاعِ فَقَدْ قَالَ رسولُ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم"لاَ تَدْخُلُوْا الْجَنَّةَ حَتَّى تُؤْمِنُوْا وَلاَ تُؤْمِنُوْا حَتَّى تَحَآبُّوْا" معنى وَلاَ تُؤْمِنُوْا حَتَّى تَحَآبُّوْا أَيْ لاَ يكونُ إِيْمَانُ الْمَرْءِ كَامِلاً حَتَّى يُحِبَّ إخوانَـهُ يُحِبُّ لَهم الْخَيْرَ ويكرَهُ لَهم الشَّرَّ يَفْرَحُ لفَرَحِ إخوانِـه وَيَحْزَنُ لِحُزْنِهِمْ مَعْنَى الْحَدِيْثِ لاَ يَدْخُلُ الْجَنَّةَ مَعَ الأَوَّلِيْنَ إِلاَّ إِذَا كَانَتْ فِيْهِ هذِهِ الْمَحَبَّةُ. وَأَمَّا التَّـطَاوُعُ فَهُوَ مَطْلُوْبٌ لأَنَّ الاستِفَادَةَ بَيْنَ الإِخْوَانِ لاَ تَتِمُّ بدُوْنـهِ وَمَعْنَى التَّطَاوُعِ هو التَوَافُقُ عَلَى مَا فِيْهِ خَيْرٌ يَسْتَضِيْءُ الْمُؤْمِنُ بِمَا عندَ أخِيه مِنَ الفَهْمِ وَالْمَعْرِفَةِ ويستفِيْدُ الآخَرُ مِنْهُ ذلِكَ. وَأَمَّا الْحِلْمُ فَهُوَ الصَّبْرُ عَلَى الْمُتَعَلّمِيْنَ خُصُوْصًا وَعَلَى غيرِهِم عُمُوْمًا لأَنَّ الْمُعَلّمَ إِذَا عَوَّدَ نفسَه الْحِلْمَ تكونُ إفادَتُـهُ أَكْثَرَ وذلِكَ لأنَّ كَثِيْرًا مِنَ الْمُعَلّمِيْنَ يضجَرُوْنَ مِن كَمَالِ الإِفَادَةِ وَيُحْرَمُوْنَ خَيْرًا كَثِيْرًا".
As for loving one another and being compassionate, it is the basis of benefit and benefiting. Rasulullah peace be upon him said: "You will not enter Jannah until you belief, and you will not believe until you love one another". The meaning of "you will not believe until you love one" you will not be true complete believers until he loves his fellow brothers, he loves for them the goodness and hates for them the harm. He will be happy for their happiness and said for their sadness. The meaning of the hadith "one will not enter Jannah" that is with the first bath unless he had this trait of love.

As for Tatawu^, it's needed, because the benefit between brothers and sisters will not be complete without it. The meaning of Tatawu^ cooperation is to agree on collaborating in what has benefit which enlightens the believer with what his fellow brother has from understanding and knowledge and vice versa. As for patience and wisdom, it is to have patience with the learned students especially and others generally. Because the teach if he gets into the habit of being patient, his benefit increases. Because many teachers get bored of the complete benefit and will be prevented a great amount of goodness.

[Sayfullah]

أذكر نفسي واياكم بالآية:
(قَوْلٌ مَّعْرُوفٌ وَمَغْفِرَةٌ خَيْرٌ مِّن صَدَقَةٍ يَتْبَعُهَا أَذًى ۗ وَاللَّـهُ غَنِيٌّ حَلِيمٌ)

عن ابن عباس رضي الله عنه قال: إذا أردت أن تذكر عيوب صاحبك فاذكر عيوب نفسك.اهـ قال الإمام الشافعي رضي الله عنه: من حَسُن ظنُّه طابَ عيشُه.

فالعاقل همّه وهمّته في إصلاح نفسه وليس شأنه أن يُحسّن الظن بنفسه ويمدحها ويسيء الظن بغيره. إساءة الظن بالناس بلا سبب شرعي فعل المغرورين. العبرة باتّباع الشريعة أولاً قبل المال والحسب والمناصب.

كم من وضيع عند الناس رفيع عند الله، وكم من رفيع عند الناس وضيع عند الله.

[Sayfullah]

التواضع وتحسين الظن والتطاوع
Thinking well of others and Tatawu^

قال الشيخ  رحمه الله
"أَمَّا بَعْدُ إِخْوَانَـنَا مَعَاشِرَ أَهْلِ السُّـنَّةِ وَالْجَمَاعَةِ أُوْصِيْكُم بِالْتِـزَامِ التَّطَاوُعِ فِيْمَا بَيْنَكُمْ وَتَحْسِيْنِ الظَّنّ فِي أَفْرَادِكُمْ وَالتَّوَاضُعِ كَمَا أَكَّدَ الرَّسُـوْلُ عَلَيْهِ السَّـلاَمُ ذلِكَ عَلَيْنَا مَعَاشِرَ الأُمَّةِ بِقَوْلِـهِ "إِنَّكُمْ لَتَغْفُلُوْنَ عَنْ أَفْضَلِ العِبَادَةِ التَّوَاضُع" وَبِالتَّوَاضُعِ وَالتَّطَاوُعِ يَكُوْنُ القَلِيْلُ كَثِيْرًا مِنْ حَيْثُ الْمَعْنَى وَيَكُوْنُ الكَثِيْرُ بِدُوْنِـهِ قَلِيْلا فَالْزَمُوْا هذَا تَنْجَحُوْا وتكون لَكُمْ مَهَابَـةٌ عِنْدَ النَّاسِ الْمُحِبّيْنَ وَالأَعْدَاءِ وَفَّقَكُمُ اللهُ لِلْعَمَلِ بِهَذِهِ النَّصِيْحَةِ".

Sheikh Abdullah may Allah have mercy upon him said:
Thereafter, our dear brothers of Ahlus-Sunnah wal Jama^ah, I urge you to adhere with tatawu^ within each other and to think well in each other and be humble. As Rasulullah peace be upon him emphasized on this to the ummah by saying: "You are inattentive of a great act of obedience, which is tawadu^".
With Tawadu^ and tatawu^, the little becomes plenty figuratively. And the plenty without it becomes little. SO adhere to this you will succeed and you will appeal to both your supporters and enemies. May Allah facilitate for you to apply this advice.
 
وَقَالَ رضي الله عنه "قَالَ رَسُـوْلُ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم  "اَلْمُؤْمِنُ كَالْجَمَلِ الأَنِفِ إِنْ قِيْدَ انْقَادَ وَإِنْ اسْتُنِـيْخَ عَلَى صَخْرَةٍ اسْتَـنَاخَ" إِنْ أَبْرَكْتَهُ عَلَى صَخْرَةٍ يَبْرُكْ أَيْنَمَا أَبْرَكْتَهُ يَبْرُكْ إِنْ سُقْـتَهُ أَيْضًا يَنْسَـاقُ مَعَكَ. مَعْنَاهُ اَلْمُؤْمِنُ يكونُ لَيّـنًا بِأَيْدِي إِخْوَانِـهِ يُطَاوِعُهُمْ لاَ يَتَرَفَّعُ عَلَيْهِمْ. اَلرَّسُـوْلُ كَانَتِ البِنْتُ الصَّغِيْرَةُ تَأْتِي تَأْخُذُ بِيَدِهِ وَتَأْخُذُهُ إِلَى حَيْثُ أَرْسَلَهَا أَهْلُهَا بِنْتٌ صَغِيْرَةٌ تَأْخُذُ بِيَدِهِ تُوْصِلُهُ ولاَ يَتَرَفَّعُ عَنْهَا.                   وهذَا يَتَطَلَّبُ تَحْسِيْنَ الظَنّ بِأَخِيْهِ لأَنَّـهُ إِنْ أَسَـاءَ الظَنَّ بِأَخِيْهِ لاَ يَحْصُلُ هذَا التَّطَاوُعُ إِلاَّ مَعَ حُسْنِ الظَّنّ بِأَخِيْهِ مَا لَمْ يَرَ مِنْهُ مَعْصِيَةً للهِ تَعَالَى يُرِيْدُ أن يَدْعُوَ غَيْرَهُ إِلَيْهَا يُسَايِرُهُ أَمَّا إِنْ أَرَادَ أَنْ يَدْعُوَهُ إِلَى مَعْصِيَةٍ لاَ يَنْقَادُ مَعَهُ لِلْمَعْصِيَةِ ولكِنْ يَنْهَاهُ يَقُوْلُ لَـهُ هذَا الشىءُ لاَ يَجُوْزُ فَإِنْ أَبَى إِلا أَنْ يَقُوْدَ النَّاسَ إِلَى الْمَعْصِيَةِ يُفَارِقُـهُ هذَا شَـأْنُ الدُّعَاةِ إِلَى اللهِ".

He also said:"Rasulullah said  ﷺ
"The true believer (is easy going and gentle) like a leashed camel. If it is pulled, it follows, and if made to sit on a rock, it sits". If you made it sit on a rock, it sits anywhere you make it sit it sits. If was driven it follows.  This means the believer should be lenient with his brothers, obeys them, he doesn't act haughtily over them.

A littler girl would take the hand of Rasulullah  ﷺ and take him to wherever her parents sent her. A littler girl would take his hand and take him and he would not haughtily ignore her.

This requires thinking well of one's brother, because if he thinks ill of his brother this tatawu^ will not happen except by thinking well with his brother. As long as he didn't see a sin from him calling others to it, let him cope and agree with him. But if he called him for a sin he would not follow him to the sin, rather he should prevent it, he should say to him not to do it. If he refused but to lead people then he should leave him. This is the way of the callers to Allah.